When you run into trouble, or are facing difficult moments, or need to talk to someone..
Who do you run to? Who do you turn to? Who do you seek advice from?
An advisor is someone who offers advice in a particular field. [via Dictionary]. It is a friend that we so often turn to, when we are facing troubles, and are in need of honest advice.
Is your friend a trustworthy friend, an honest friend, a friend you can count on? Or is a friend that seeks selfish gains? [what’s in it for me] gives ill advice, and is nowhere to be found when you need good advice?
What about you? What type of friend are you? Are you only around when times are good, but when times get tough, you back out?
Everyone needs a friend! Every one needs someone to confide in, and talk to. It is natural for us to seek relationships, and strive for connections.
Ever since we were kids, we craved connections, we desired for friendships. As we get older, our need for friendships does not change, it only increases.
When it comes to friendships, how do I know who is right, or wrong for me? How do I pick my friendships, or how do I seek out good friendships?
First and foremost, before you embark on a journey of friendships, do not just befriend anyone you can find. Test that person’s character. To me character is everything! It is who you are at the core of your being. It is who you are,when no one is watching. Are you dishonest, do you lie with no problems? hasty in your decitions, what are your passions? Desires? What do you talk about? What is your behaviour like? BE STEADY when it comes to friendships. Do not be hasty in your decitions, choose with wisdom!
You shop for a good pair of shoes right? You want to make sure the shoes fit, and look right. You want to make sure the price is right and the brand goes with your style.
Same goes for friendships. Don’t go looking for friends that would not fit your character, lifestyle or principle. Choose friends that will align with your beliefs, if you are a passionate believer, friends you can count on, because times get tough, friends you can pray with, and seek advice from, when you are in the trenches. Just because someone is nice, does not mean they are a good fit for you. Shoes can be nice, but not fit your foot, or be uncomfortable to walk in it.
Test their character under pressure, see their reactions, ask questions. If their response does not align with yours, maybe it is not a good choice for a friend.
In my friendships I didn’t really choose good friendships because I did not know any better. I befriended anyone that I came in contact with, later to find out, that everyone is NOT your friend, and NOT everyone wants what’s best for you. In my life I gravitated towards worldly friendships and those type of friends influenced me in more ways than one.
Do not be misled; bad company corrupts good character.1 Corinthians 15:33
Friendship with the world, is enmity with God. Amplified version says it like this.
You [are like] unfaithful wives [having illicit love affairs with the world and breaking your marriage vow to God]! Do you not know that being the world’s friend is being God’s enemy? So whoever chooses to be a friend of the world takes his stand as an enemy of God.James 4:4
If you get with a friend who likes to cut corners and skip lines, [shrewd character with no integrity] soon enough you will be cutting corners and skipping lines. If you seek for advice, and that friend gives you an ill advice, you might be making the wrong decition, walking in the wrong direction. 2 Samuel 13:3-5. Also tune into the chapter for insights via Firestarter-Ignite Podcast
Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heartProverbs 3:5-6
And do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him,
And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].
A worldly friend is like that pair of shoes that you buy online. You cannot fully try it on, or pick out comfort level. They may look nice, but be two sizes too small or after a while cause you some kind of discomfort . It’s a 50/50 chance with worldly friends. They may fit your bad desires, and passions, but are they good for you?
You know what they say, tell me who your friends are, I’ll tell you where you are going. Well it’s quite true! Your friends become your advisors, your guidence your direction, and your compass for future self.
Good friends are hard to find, an honest friend is truly a jewel to find. Friends do not come easy, and seeking out for advisors, that friend you can trust and depend on is even harder to find.
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