MODESTY-WHAT IS MODESTY?
When we talk about modesty is it really clothes like we have been taught, or is it more than clothes? Maybe it’s a matter of moderation, or a rule of thumb?!
Modesty by definition
MODESTY by biblical standard
humility, humbleness, meekness, godliness.
MODESTY is a standard by which we are to stand by in all matters of our lives, yet so many focus just on CLOTHES!
Pharisee, the religious folks, rulers of LAW, in the bible, dress themselves really good, but were the worst kind, hypocrites! They made sure to tithe to a tee, appear righteous, in front of others, while failing to make it, or lift a finger in private, they were proper clothing, [long robes, tassels etc] followed the law….[regulations and traditions] yet fell short of Gods standard! Refer to Matthew 23; Matthew 6; Luke 11; Luke 20
They forgot about the most important matters, like mercy, justice, and grace.
If you're going to do one, you might as well do another.
When I think about modesty I think about moderation, and not just my clothing, but my everything. Because everything I have, and everything I am belongs to the Lord.
Not only am I to pay attention to my clothing, I am to pay attention to the important matters too! Otherwise I am a hypocrite!
First when I think about clothing;
Am I too concerned with what people think of me ? Do I go overboard trying to please others. Do I love to be esteemed, or seek to sit in important seats, am I missing the most important ingredient love?
Do I draw attention to myself, am I honoring God, am I pleasing the Lord, with what I am wearing.
Modesty is not about clothing, it is a ruler of moderation to keep ourselves in check. We humans can truly go overboard, and God has set a boundary for a reason, to protect us from evil, and what we are not aware of.
I was fixing to have a meeting with a few friends of mine, when I stumbled upon a few thoughts.
What will they think of me? How would they perceive me, I will wear whatever I used to wear! [dress, skirt]
Immediately I checked myself, as well as the holy spirit checked me. What do you normally wear? Wear what is comfortable to you, don’t go overboard trying to please others. You are your own journey, do not be conserned with what people think of you. I picked you, I appointed you, now go, and be!
Tears streamed down my face. “Yes Lord, your will be done! It’s a difficult journey, but I must keep going, lead me. Direct me, instruct me, correct me if you have to. I desire to be pleasing to you, and honor you in all I do.“
I went to that meeting unashamed! They might have been stares, and there might have been judgement, I didn’t care! My conscience was clear, I cleared it with the Lord! God saw the hearts, I did what I felt comfortable to do, and that’s not go overboard, trying to please others.
Many take this “ruler” to the extreme and make it a law, and even go as far as salvational standard. When Timothy, Peter spoke about modesty, he taught not commanded, he suggested, not demanded. We want to make sure we don’t take scriptures out of context, and make it fit whatever it is that we believe, or the church we go to believes.
Women should focus on internal beauty more than external. We are not to obsess with our hairstyles, fancy clothes, or even the type of jewelry we wear. We are to pay attention to internal godliness, which is good works, humility, quietness, and submission to our spouses. We are to be Proverbs 31 women, honoring God in all we do, directed with wisdom, lead by his spirit.
Yet some will take it to the extreme, and trust me I have myself been to this extreme, that I lost myself in the process.